One of the things I absolutely love about minimalism is that you identify what is important in your life and then let the unimportant slide.
I’ve done that now for many years. My focus has been not only raising my daughter but helping others through my writing. Everything else takes a backseat to these two things right now.
In the past few months this has been put to the test. A small number of nice gentlemen have been pursuing me in hopes of cultivating a romantic relationship. While there is nothing wrong with these men (they are all quite nice), I have no real desire to take time from my two passions to hang out, go on dates, etc.
This isn’t to say that I’m a hermit. As you know, I occasionally visit local bars with my local bestie (who also happens to be my hairdresser) to sing karaoke. We hang out with our circle of friends (both male and female), have fun, and sing our hearts out when time and money allows. This is a treat I really cherish but sometimes my male friends want to spend more time with me than my priorities allow. I refuse with no regrets.
The other evening one of my friends insisted that I was putting my life on hold because I don’t make time for romance. I tried to explain to her that I’ve done nothing of the sort, I’m just focusing on what’s important to me in order to achieve my dreams.
I don’t think she understood.
Minimalism and Life
When you apply minimalism to your life you limit or eliminate the nonessential. If a relationship was a priority to me I would devote time to pursuing potential romantic partners. It is not. I’ve been on my own since Katie was a baby (she’s almost 16 now) and I’ve done just fine. To take time from her and my writing would run counter to my personal minimalist philosophy and possibly derail all of the hard work I’ve done so far.
When you know what your priorities are it helps make decisions like this easier. You can look at a purchase, a person, or a situation and ask yourself “Is this a priority to me?” If it is, great but if not, you know to move on.
Of course, we all change as we go through our lives. Our priorities shift with age, experience, and a number of other factors. When this happens all you have to do is re-evaluate your priorities and shift your focus. For me, this means that in time I may decide to make romance a priority–but not for now.
In what ways have you applied minimalism to your life? Please share your stories in the comments below.
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