Lemonade Time!

Posted on | February 19, 2011 | 12 Comments

Okay, life has thrown me a curveball.

Lemons_x I can be sour from these lemons, or I can make lemonade.

I guess it’s Lemonade time!

Remember the guy who was selling me the land under my trailer? Well, he finally sold it—right from under me.

He wants me to move the trailer.

That’s okay.

I have been thinking, I can move this thing or I can move closer to Central Ky and eliminate some of this drive.

I can go somewhere else and continue to spend hundreds a month until Katie comes home—or I can move closer to family and virtually eliminate that expense.

It’s not like I have to move right in the same town with my ex, you know?

I’ve talked to both my sister and my cousin, and both are willing to put up with me until I can find a place and get situated. My cousin has a barn I can store my appliances in until I get another place.

She also has some ideas of where I can move to that would be close to her, which would help both of us out.

We have previously discussed my moving closer to her in order to help with childcare. She is a nurse and works those dreaded 12-hour shifts. Great money, but hell on babysitters!

I am now in the process of considering my options. I discussed the situation with my ex husband’s social worker and he said it would be great if I could relocate closer and would not affect my standing with them whatsoever (their opinion is very important right now as they are helping my ex work out some of his personal issues).

I am undecided as of yet where I will move exactly, but I think it is best that I do move. It isn’t like it is forever, you know!

Does anyone in Paducah want to buy a trailer cheap? You may be able to work it out with the new owner to stay here or not, it was the original owner who said I needed to move. I’m taking offers, and it is a good sound trailer!

I am not pleased with the thought of living under someone’s roof but I shall consider this good experience. Perhaps I can arrange a good little place there, help out my cousin and focus on my writing even more than I can now.

Instead of spending 7+ hours driving 4 times or more a month, I would maybe be driving a half hour, or we might take turns driving the full trip to each other’s places while Katie is still at his house, who knows? I would only be about an hour away from his house, which is way closer than the 5 hours I am currently.

If I move in with my cousin and stay in that area I will have family there to lean on if my ex does decide to start harassing me again. Hopefully I would be far enough away that he wouldn’t be interested however!

If I move in with my sister I would be in the same town as my ex but my sister has expressed interest in being a long-term roommate so that we can pool our resources.

I don’t really want to move back to that town. I don’t really feel safe there, but I dread the expense of renting again!

I haven’t made any official decision yet. I have some friends here who really want me to stay local, but I am sick and tired of that drive—and it would be kinda fun to check out my cousin’s part of the woods. I can get a prepaid data card for the laptop and have internet for my writing and other online work, so the distance she lives from town would not be a concern, especially since I rarely go anywhere if I can avoid it.

Part of me is upset—but part of me sees this as an opportunity.

Either way I’m a bit stressed over it.

Life Changes, Blog Changes

As a result of these life changes you will get to be with me every step of the way. You will get to see how I handle this as I figure all of this mess out and see just how I land on my feet.

This trailer is just a thing. It is not a big deal to leave it and walk away. I will recover and end up on top just like I always do.

One day, though I KNOW that I will get settled into the boring peaceful life that I most enjoy—but if I end up getting that, what in the world would I blog about?

Fortunately I am a minimalist. I would like to keep my washer, dryer, stove and refrigerator primarily, and computer desk, kitchen table, easy chair and footstool secondary. Other than Katie’s bed (which folds away) the rest is easily handled, and you know I just got rid of a ton of stuff!

The shelves all break down except for the wooden one and it’s not very big.

One load should get it. I can rent a small truck with a car dolly and haul it all down at once—seems like the cheapest method. I would ditch the appliances but since I need to rent a small truck anyway for a single load I may as well bring them. They will save me money in the long run when I get my own place again, so it is a no-brainer.

Any tips or ideas on handling this?

Category: My Life
Tags: curveball

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12 Responses to “Lemonade Time!”

meg
February 19th, 2011 @ 9:44 am

Holy crap! Well, your minimalism is really going to be put to the test now! How quickly do you need to move out?

Craig’s List the trailer. Also, reconsider the appliances–might it be better to stock up on as much cash as possible, and get new used appliances if/when you need them again? Especially if you end up sharing house with sis or cousin.

Re moving back to town: I would go where I could work the easiest. I’m a skittish type, so wouldn’t go where I was nervous. You might be different. Hope you are not forced to make a decision before sleeping on it over the weekend.

But man oh man this is going to make a great series of posts–bring on the lemonade!
Annie
February 19th, 2011 @ 11:53 am

I’m going to move out around the first to give the new trailer owner a chance to do whatever they want to this place.

As for the appliances, I have to rent a small truck anyway to ensure I get everything in one load and they should all fit without an issue. If they don’t all fit I will have no issues leaving some of them behind! It took 7 loads in my van and 1 small pickup load to get everything in here, and while I have reduced a LOT I don’t want to take any chances of leaving something of Katie’s. I’m worried about her reaction.

I can work anywhere, honestly. I do all of my work from home so long as I have an internet connection. The internet is the one thing I cannot compromise on–It is an essential, but I can get a prepaid data card and be set!

I might enjoy being in the country for a change, as I’ve lived in urban areas for years. My auntie lives next door to my cousin and they go to town all of the time–I don’t think they are TOO far out, though any place without a corner grocery seems too far out to me right now!

Meg, I’m scared. I prefer being the one who sets my own agenda, who does things at her own time and her own pace on her own terms, and I feel as if that is being ripped from me. It isn’t a pleasant feeling when the world has a mind of it’s own!
Tamara
February 19th, 2011 @ 7:45 pm

Best of luck with the move, Annie. I’ve always admired how resourceful you are, and I know you will turn this into a great adventure and opportunity. Change is hard at times, but I’m actually looking forward to our next move (whenever that is) to see just how little we will take with us. Fortunately, my husband is a minimalist, too.

Living in the country can be fun–as long as there’s Internet! Take care.
Annie
February 19th, 2011 @ 9:02 pm

Thanks Tamara! I appreciate it!
Carrie
February 20th, 2011 @ 8:12 am

wow–big changes coming. (((hugs))) Change can be so hard when you’re feel like you’re not in complete control – but I find that thinking “I’m going to see where I like next” really helps. Be selfish – find/make the arrangement that makes you happiest. Getting rid of that drive alone could almost be worth it though – that sounded so brutal! And having people close enough to support you when you have to deal with a dangerous ex, that know the truth about him and that no one can con into believing an “alternate view” of reality, really helps mentally. It gets so exhausting dealing with that crap and standing on your own all the time, even surrounded by tons of new friends. I found that not committing myself to anything permanent immediately helps, even if it costs me more shortterm. I like to scope out an area and see how it feels to me after being in it for a few weeks. If it’s not somewhere I like waking up in, I try somewhere else. Katie will probably love having you closer, but will probably be worried for you too. If you’re happy, she’ll be happy. We’ll all be worried for you, but excited too – best of luck with everything.
Annie
February 20th, 2011 @ 1:55 pm

Thanks Carrie! I think Katie will like living closer to her cousins–they get along really well! It would solve the issue of worrying about who she hangs out with when she is at home!

Everything is working out to where I will not have to hurry once I get there.. it is just intimidating overall. I am actually looking forward to the change and the new environment though–I always loved moving as a kid! If I can arrange it I would like to just sell all of my big stuff here and just start over completely for a fun fresh start, but I can’t do that if I will pull a financial loss at this time–who knows what will happen?
Willow
February 20th, 2011 @ 5:46 pm

Annie,
I like what Carrie says about it being better to have an immediate but not permanent situation at first to give you time to look around and evaluate your next step. And yes, it’s comforting to have good supportive family who will ‘have your back’.
Tanja from Minimalist Packrat
February 20th, 2011 @ 6:53 pm

Hugs. You’ll get through this.

The country! That’s my vote Annie. Especially since you haven’t lived in the country for years. It could be a lovely peaceful change of pace for you. More important is something you already said,”I don’t really want to move back to that town. I don’t really feel safe there.”

Your instincts are telling you that town isn’t right for you. If I had an ex who’s been aggressive before and is seeking treatment I wouldn’t want to put myself in the same town as him. That does sound scary and living scared is a crappy thing.

But you know the situation way better than any of us. You’ll make a good decision and you’ll have an adventure in the process. Change can be scary (I was terrified leaving Arkansas, I mean the jobs in Arkansas, the last time) but you’ll emerge from the change stronger and happier. The universe is giving you a kick in the butt to change things. Embrace it!

I’ll be thinking of you….

Tanja
Annie
February 20th, 2011 @ 11:32 pm

Thanks Tanja! I appreciate that!

I decided to go country. My cousin is happy that I’m moving back, and they are going out of their way to make room.

My ex .. is a basket case. While several say that with his current legal problems will keep him distracted enough to leave me alone, I don’t trust him. Period.

My cousin and I are going to work things out where the kids are all in the same school district and stuff so they will all have each other. To me that is really cool. I got to go to school with one of my cousins (different one) for a couple of years and absolutely loved it as a child and I felt like I had someone there had my back cause she shared my blood.

I’ll keep you posted on everything that happens–good, bad or ugly. Hey–when I get done I might actually qualify to be an official Alphabet-list Minimalist after I get done with this purge–I won’t have anything left! (heehee)
Sunny
February 21st, 2011 @ 12:09 am

That’s quite something to hear about. I hope you’ll be able to go through this without too much problems. Despite your ex, maybe being closer to your family could be a good thing after all. Change is sometime good. Good luck! I’ll keep reading among the way.
Annie
February 21st, 2011 @ 12:11 am

Thanks Sunny!
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