Periodically I like to evaluate where I am in life and where I am going. This helps me to keep on track both mentally and physically.
Who am I? What am I doing? Where am I going with things? All of these questions help to keep me focused and to point out when I’ve drifted off course.
This time I realized that while my priorities had not changed, my focus had shifted somewhat.
I have one main goal in my life and that is to provide the best, most stable home environment for my daughter that I am able until she turns 18 and moves on with her life.
After that I have no real goals so my secondary goal is to keep things as open-ended as possible beyond those five years.
What does this mean for my life? Since I may want to travel after Katie is gone do I really want to tie myself down with a home, especially one in an area that I have no real intention of staying long-term?
Since I will probably be relocating after Katie is grown at the least (and maybe sooner if the right space opens up), do I really want to invest in any permanent changes in this home, knowing that I won’t be able to take them with me?
Even more important: Do I really want to invest in anything overly large, knowing that I will have to deal with the hassle of moving (or eliminating) it at some later date?
These questions may seem silly but for me they are very serious. For instance, I have been looking around for a daybed almost since the first day I moved in here. However, do I really need one when what I already have works, especially since I don’t know where I’m going to end up – or if I’ll have room for it in some future home? Do I want to spend money on something I may have to eliminate in just a few short years when my current solution works perfectly well? Would it not be better to save that money (and time spent looking for the perfect one) and apply it to something that I will definitely be able to use beyond that five-year window? This would mean I could spend more time writing a book and have more money to put toward something else, like a laptop for my writing.
Do I really need to bother with fencing in this whole yard when I could just repair the fence that is already here? Do I really need to spend the money and the time on something that will belong to the landlord as soon as I build it?
These are just a few of the questions I’ve been asking myself. They’ve helped me to understand that my current list of desires is not in line with my priorities and are now helping me re-evaluate the things that I really need to acquire and do.
What are your goals and priorities in life? Do the things you are buying and the stuff you are doing line up with your ideals? Please share your stories in the comments below.