• Health

    The Reality of Aging

    I woke up to a face filled with pain the other morning. I sat up with a moan, trying to figure out what was happening when my daughter entered the room. “Oh my God! What happened to your face?” Katie exclaimed. I staggered to a mirror. My upper right lip had swelled to the size of a sports ball. That…

  • Life,  Personal

    Stiffly Moving Forward

    My first thought this morning was that someone had replaced my joints with a box of Rice Krispies. Every part of my body snapped, cracked, and popped after yesterday’s adventure. But at least I got the front yard mowed. I may not feel like moving from this spot but I still had stuff to get done. While I’ve accomplished a…

  • Finances,  Health

    Self-Analysis

    Last night I face-planted into my computer keyboard. That was a definite sign of why I’ve become so grumpy and frustrated as of late. I’ve pushed myself a bit too hard again, sacrificing sleep for my goals. I have really got to establish some limits here. While I’m happy that I am more productive than I’ve been in quite a…

  • Life

    Reviewing the Past

    Every day I make it a point to restore at least one of the older posts that I had to delete several years ago. The post I restored today had to deal with relationships. I really wanted a relationship back then. It’s amazing to see how much I’ve changed in just a decade. I couldn’t help but chuckle as I…

  • Health,  Life,  Personal,  self-improvement,  Success

    The Process of Recharging

    Day by day, in every way, I’m getting better and better. Émile Coué de la Châtaigneraie I sleep in when I can. I rest instead of endlessly working. Bit by bit, I can tell a difference. Instead of scolding the dogs for their excitement in the mornings when they wake me to go potty, I gather my coat and take…

  • Health,  Personal

    Practicing Selfishness

    It has been six days since I watched Katie leave with the recruiter. Five days since I saw her last, on the day she shipped out to BASIC. Four days since I’ve had any contact with her. And I’m doing perfectly fine. I’ve not had a day off work since last Tuesday, the last day I saw my little girl.…

  • Life,  Personal

    New Beginnings

    This is it. Last night I said my final farewell to the kid. The very last call was scripted, just letting me know that she had arrived safely and that she would be out of contact for the next couple of weeks. I am now officially free of the full burden of motherhood. It started a few days ago. We…

  • Life

    Distraction

    At first it was the television. It sat front and center of every living room. Residents and visitors alike would stare at the glowing screen, chatting during commercial break. Then came the video games. Names like Atari and Commodore. Devices attached to our precious televisions gave us something to do while we were glued to our televisions. We could direct…

  • Life,  self-improvement,  Success

    Carpe Annum

    This is it. The dawn of an entirely new year. I couldn’t wait to greet it. I woke up, made my coffee, and journaled as I watched the sun rise. I changed so much in 2018. I started out the year without a single serious idea of what I wanted to do with my life. Aside from my work schedule,…

  • Decorating,  Holidays,  Life

    Making Christmas Memories

    Christmas dawned bright and early in the Brewer household. Katie had been sad since it was the first Christmas since her father had passed so I wanted to make it memorable. We invited a few friends to come visit with us so it was time to start cooking! It is amazing what you can whip up using a toaster oven,…

  • Investments,  Life,  Personal

    When Life Takes A Left Turn

    My life has taken a really strange turn since Thanksgiving. Not only has my ex-husband passed away but certain aspects of my personal life that concern the situation have also gotten very, very strange. The worst part of the whole situation is that I can’t share what’s going on yet. Things are still in motion; I might jeopardize the outcome…

  • Life

    Late Night Visitor

    The other evening as I prepared for bed there was a knock on my door. I opened it to discover a friend of mine who had decided to come visit despite the fact that it was well past the hour for it to be socially acceptable. I was annoyed but decided to be polite. I explained that I was getting…

  • Life

    The Changing Circle of Friendship

    I unfollowed a few old friends last night on Facebook. I had known some of these people since I first moved to this area. I had laughed at their jokes, sat on their porches for chats…some of these people had been regular visitors to my home for years. But something has changed inside of me these past few months. I…

  • Finances,  Life

    The Necessity of Facing Reality

    Now that I’ve had time to breathe, it is time to face my current reality. I need to know what I’m facing in order to move forward. Facing our current reality is a necessity. Burying your head in the sand won’t help one bit. You must know exactly where you stand, regardless of how shaky the ground so that you know…

  • Life

    When the Unspeakable Happens

    We all have our demons. For the most part I keep mine stuffed in a box that I have hidden in the back of my mind. They like to escape sometimes, as they did recently when I made the mistake of watching Ford testify during the Kavanaugh thing. Those demons caused me to go on a crying jag and write…

  • Life

    Chilling Encounter

    It was Sunday, September 10, 2017. I was working the closing shift when I greeted my next customer. “How are you tonight?” I asked cheerfully. “Not too well,” he replied. He went on to explain that he was having relationship problems. I responded sympathetically. I hate when my customers are having a rough time so I try to comfort them…

  • Life

    The Art of Owning Your Issues

    This old broad is sad to report that she is quickly becoming a toothless crone. The other day I had two more teeth pulled and my dentist asked if I would consider getting dentures. I informed him that I had been exploring my options for quite a while. I could blame my current dilemma on the doctor of my youth.…

  • Frugality,  Life

    It Doesn’t Cost a Fortune to Look Nice

    The older I get the worse I look. My hair has started greying and things have started sagging that never sagged before. I’ve never really been self-conscious about the effects of aging but over time I noticed a difference; not in me, but in my customers. While some of my customers appear to be ageless, others appear considerably older than…

  • Life

    Laundry Day

    Laundry day is always an adventure in this house. Once we decide that it is time to visit the laundromat we wander through the house to locate any stray items that have managed to avoid being placed in our laundry bin. We bag everything up and stick the whole load into our shopping cart along with our washing supplies. After…

  • Life,  Success

    How I am Teaching Responsibility to my Young Adult

    As my daughter Katie neared her 18th birthday the inevitable challenge arose: “I’m almost 18!” she huffed at me one day. “You need to start treating me like an adult!” “I’ll treat you like an adult when you start acting like one,” I retorted firmly. This led to a conversation about what it takes to be considered an adult. I…