• Life,  self-improvement,  Success

    Carpe Annum

    This is it. The dawn of an entirely new year. I couldn’t wait to greet it. I woke up, made my coffee, and journaled as I watched the sun rise. I changed so much in 2018. I started out the year without a single serious idea of what I wanted to do with my life. Aside from my work schedule,…

  • Decorating,  Holidays,  Life

    Making Christmas Memories

    Christmas dawned bright and early in the Brewer household. Katie had been sad since it was the first Christmas since her father had passed so I wanted to make it memorable. We invited a few friends to come visit with us so it was time to start cooking! It is amazing what you can whip up using a toaster oven,…

  • Investments,  Life,  Personal

    When Life Takes A Left Turn

    My life has taken a really strange turn since Thanksgiving. Not only has my ex-husband passed away but certain aspects of my personal life that concern the situation have also gotten very, very strange. The worst part of the whole situation is that I can’t share what’s going on yet. Things are still in motion; I might jeopardize the outcome…

  • Life

    Late Night Visitor

    The other evening as I prepared for bed there was a knock on my door. I opened it to discover a friend of mine who had decided to come visit despite the fact that it was well past the hour for it to be socially acceptable. I was annoyed but decided to be polite. I explained that I was getting…

  • Life

    The Changing Circle of Friendship

    I unfollowed a few old friends last night on Facebook. I had known some of these people since I first moved to this area. I had laughed at their jokes, sat on their porches for chats…some of these people had been regular visitors to my home for years. But something has changed inside of me these past few months. I…

  • Finances,  Life

    The Necessity of Facing Reality

    Now that I’ve had time to breathe, it is time to face my current reality. I need to know what I’m facing in order to move forward. Facing our current reality is a necessity. Burying your head in the sand won’t help one bit. You must know exactly where you stand, regardless of how shaky the ground so that you know…

  • Life

    When the Unspeakable Happens

    We all have our demons. For the most part I keep mine stuffed in a box that I have hidden in the back of my mind. They like to escape sometimes, as they did recently when I made the mistake of watching Ford testify during the Kavanaugh thing. Those demons caused me to go on a crying jag and write…

  • Life

    Chilling Encounter

    It was Sunday, September 10, 2017. I was working the closing shift when I greeted my next customer. “How are you tonight?” I asked cheerfully. “Not too well,” he replied. He went on to explain that he was having relationship problems. I responded sympathetically. I hate when my customers are having a rough time so I try to comfort them…

  • Life

    The Art of Owning Your Issues

    This old broad is sad to report that she is quickly becoming a toothless crone. The other day I had two more teeth pulled and my dentist asked if I would consider getting dentures. I informed him that I had been exploring my options for quite a while. I could blame my current dilemma on the doctor of my youth.…

  • Frugality,  Life

    It Doesn’t Cost a Fortune to Look Nice

    The older I get the worse I look. My hair has started greying and things have started sagging that never sagged before. I’ve never really been self-conscious about the effects of aging but over time I noticed a difference; not in me, but in my customers. While some of my customers appear to be ageless, others appear considerably older than…

  • Life

    Laundry Day

    Laundry day is always an adventure in this house. Once we decide that it is time to visit the laundromat we wander through the house to locate any stray items that have managed to avoid being placed in our laundry bin. We bag everything up and stick the whole load into our shopping cart along with our washing supplies. After…

  • Life,  Success

    How I am Teaching Responsibility to my Young Adult

    As my daughter Katie neared her 18th birthday the inevitable challenge arose: “I’m almost 18!” she huffed at me one day. “You need to start treating me like an adult!” “I’ll treat you like an adult when you start acting like one,” I retorted firmly. This led to a conversation about what it takes to be considered an adult. I…

  • Life

    Moving On

    Going back to work has been a surprising success. While I still have my issues I have discovered that I am able to cope for the most part and bury my secret breakdowns in my pillow at night. Even now I am worried that I will be discovered as a fraud and a brain damaged failure. Even so, during the…

  • Life

    The Difference Between Men and Women

    There’s a difference in how men and women are treated in this world and it’s time I pointed out one of the major ones. When a man says he’s broke, guys offer to loan him money. When a woman says she’s broke, guys offer her $$ for sexual acts. I’ve had it happen more times than I can count. Very…