• Business,  Investments,  Personal

    Three Jobs?

    Since yesterday was a maudlin day (as you could tell from my post), I called up my beloved Auntie early this morning for some much-needed encouragement. “Well, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted and feeling emotional!” Auntie declared once I’d shared, “You’re working three jobs, taking care of your house, and studying like you were in an actual college class besides!…

  • Empty Nest,  Housing

    Broken Bones

    I received a letter from Katie yesterday. As I was reading it the phone rang. It was the kid. She’d suffered multiple stress fractures in her right leg during a PT test in addition to injuring her knee. As a result, the Navy was sending her home. To say that she was disappointed would be an understatement. Even with a…

  • Empty Nest,  Finances

    First Month Without Katie

    I just finished paying the first round of bills without the kid sharing half of the expenses. I made it. I even had a bit to spare. I must confess that I was worried so I clamped down drastically on my spending. I’m not quite sure why I was worried (this isn’t my first rodeo, after all), but that old…

  • Empty Nest,  Food,  Personal

    The Miracle of Water

    It was close to midnight. I padded into the kitchen to quench my thirst and picked up the water pitcher. I blinked at the heft. Huh? I raised it up to examine the water level. It was full. My water pitcher is never full. The only way I can ever get a drink of water out of it is to fill…

  • Health,  Life,  Personal,  self-improvement,  Success

    The Process of Recharging

    Day by day, in every way, I’m getting better and better. Émile Coué de la Châtaigneraie I sleep in when I can. I rest instead of endlessly working. Bit by bit, I can tell a difference. Instead of scolding the dogs for their excitement in the mornings when they wake me to go potty, I gather my coat and take…

  • Health,  Personal

    Practicing Selfishness

    It has been six days since I watched Katie leave with the recruiter. Five days since I saw her last, on the day she shipped out to BASIC. Four days since I’ve had any contact with her. And I’m doing perfectly fine. I’ve not had a day off work since last Tuesday, the last day I saw my little girl.…

  • Life,  Personal

    New Beginnings

    This is it. Last night I said my final farewell to the kid. The very last call was scripted, just letting me know that she had arrived safely and that she would be out of contact for the next couple of weeks. I am now officially free of the full burden of motherhood. It started a few days ago. We…

  • Happiness,  Personal

    I Don’t NEED Anything

    Yesterday. Walking to work. I was crossing the street after checking the free stack at the local library. That was when it hit me: I don’t NEED anything! I really, really don’t. I have a roof over my head that I can easily afford even if Katie moved out tomorrow. I have clothes on my back. A surplus, actually, that I will use…

  • Personal

    The Changing Winds of Life

    It has been one helluva week here in this tiny little home. Katie decided that she had placed her life on hold for long enough. She’d sacrificed several scholarships and opportunities for a relationship that went bust, so she decided to correct that. On Monday she decided that she would join the Navy. The Army was out, despite our family’s…

  • Personal

    Update on Katie

    It has been a challenging week or so around this tiny house. The kid had a major dust-up with her fiancée so the wedding is off. She spent a week at a friend’s house mourning the change but came back home the other evening. Now she’s exploring her own path to the future. We have a Navy recruiter coming to…

  • Holidays,  Personal,  Simplicity

    Family Tradition

    Once upon a time when Katie was small money was really tight. I’d spent most of my cash on Black Friday in order to afford to give my baby the best Christmas I could afford. Katie wanted Christmas candy that year. In order to keep her happy I promised her that on the day after Christmas, once candy went on…

  • Investments,  Life,  Personal

    When Life Takes A Left Turn

    My life has taken a really strange turn since Thanksgiving. Not only has my ex-husband passed away but certain aspects of my personal life that concern the situation have also gotten very, very strange. The worst part of the whole situation is that I can’t share what’s going on yet. Things are still in motion; I might jeopardize the outcome…

  • Personal

    The Perfect Man

    After a year of silence it is time to come clean. I’ve met someone and we’re now committed to a long-term relationship. I didn’t think it would work out at first. His territorial ways and destructive tendencies had me ready to throw in the towel more than once, but one look into his deep brown eyes would net him complete…

  • Personal

    End of an Era

    My ex-husband died tonight. I was in bed when his brother showed up, banging on the door. “Get dressed!” he ordered. Katie was running through the house, frantic, so there was nowhere to change. I had the man turn his back so I could throw on some pants. I finally realized that the bathroom was empty so I darted inside…

  • Personal

    Counting Down the Days

    It is finally starting to hit my daughter that she will be moving soon. This morning she wandered around the house a bit before asking when I had to leave for work. As soon as she discovered that I work the evening shift she offered to treat me to my new favorite place, the Main Cup coffee shop. We settled…

  • Personal

    It is Time to Press Pause

    I’ve suffered from a bit of an existential crisis these past few days. My beloved daughter informed me that she plans to officially marry in November. By some time in December she should be gone. It’s all hitting me. This stage of my life is officially over. I started blogging as a form of cheap therapy. I needed to get…

  • Inspiration,  Personal,  Recycling

    The Story of a Failure

    Back when I was in fourth grade we lived within walking distance to my grandparent’s house. Every time I would see one of my uncles or aunts arrive for a visit I would race there in excitement. I loved visiting with my relatives. One of those visits is indelibly imprinted on my brain. I can’t recall the exact details; I…

  • Personal

    I Hear Banjos!

    A while back I had an older gentleman in my line. He was unkempt; his hair looked like it had seen neither brush nor a washing in some time. I waited patiently as he sat down in front of my register and whipped out a discolored sandwich baggie to sift through the stack of money in search of a twenty…

  • Finances,  Frugality,  Personal

    What I Really Want

    I’ve done a lot of thinking as my Katie’s graduation approached and even more now that I know she will leave the nest in a few short months. What next? What do I want to do now that I know I’ll be on my own? I honestly don’t know. I don’t know if I want to remain here, relocate, or…

  • Personal

    A Storm Is Coming

    Thanks to my beloved Katie’s upcoming wedding we’ve got people re-entering our lives that we haven’t associated much with for ages. This is fine. It’s more than fine, since some of them want to help out with the wedding plans and whatnot. What is not fine is the fact that certain ones have decided to start in on how I…