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Late Night Visitor

The other evening as I prepared for bed there was a knock on my door. I opened it to discover a friend of mine who had decided to come visit despite the fact that it was well past the hour for it to be socially acceptable.

I was annoyed but decided to be polite. I explained that I was getting ready for bed; my friend said she was only going to stay for a minute.

Thirty minutes later I had to firmly show her the door.

I have a few questions as a result of this common occurrence.

Etiquette Questions

When someone arrives at your home unannounced, especially at a late hour, is it socially acceptable not to allow them to enter your home?

Is it rude to tell them that you were in bed or going to bed and refuse to accept the visitor?

Was it rude of me to tell my friend to leave when she showed no indication of doing so?

What is the proper way to handle undesired guests late at night? Please share your suggestions in the comments below.

 

3 Comments

  • Linda Sand

    While this is not proper etiquette it did make me laugh: My Grandpa used to say, “Well, Ma, you suppose we should go to bed so these good people can go home?”

    To actually answer your question I think it would be OK to not let her in. She was the rude one; not you.

  • biofilo

    I have EVERYONE call before an make an appointment to meet me. Come over unannounced? Not an emergency? I let them knock, and or ring away. Ones life is suppose to be ummmmm, ones own, unfortunate, but true we must all fight 24 hours a day to stay above ground, healthy, sane and safe. I find it much easier when people KNOW, I take the reins on My time and life , not others whims, wishes, myths, or wants, desires, or delusions or incorrect conclusions. P.s. tried your email and its not working and or your not answering, let me know which please.

  • Sheila

    I am a bit of an introvert. I don’t really like company to begin with, and especially do not like unannounced visitors. If someone showed up at my house late I would probably already be in my pajamas and would not be interested in letting them in! I don’t think you were rude. If anything, you were put in a bad position by the person who showed up unannounced. In this day and age when everyone has a cell phone, why did she not text you first and check with you? I would tell my friend to please do that next time to make sure I was not sleeping.

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