The Art of Focusing on Who You Want to Be

The simple act of saying “stop” has benefited me immensely. For the first time in months, I felt an internal peace that speaks volumes in the silence. The frantic chatter in my mind has ceased now that I have given myself permission to just wait.

As I mulled over the changes in myself over the years the shock slowly eased. I see no point in criticizing the decisions I made in the past. I simply need to accept them, adjust my course, and move on.

The force of habit caused my mind to turn to my goal of financial independence. I’ve had goals for so long that it is hard to let them go. Just the simple goal of survival has been so much a part of me over these past decades that I feel a bit lost now that I’ve pressed pause, and that’s okay. There is a danger in moving too soon. I know that now but I am also aware of the fact that I need something to focus on in the meantime while I sort my emotions.

But what?

One by one the ideas came. One by one I dismissed them. Each and every idea was a plan, a goal–and goals are something I need to avoid for the time being.

It was only when I reached the point when I had to order myself to stop thinking about it that I finally worked things out. Instead of focusing on what I can do, why not focus on who I want to be?

No plans, no goals, no grand schemes. No major changes. Just close my eyes, envision who I want to become in the future, and start making tiny steps in that direction.

Have you ever allowed yourself to focus on the person you want to become? Please share your stories in the comments below.




We are attracting all of the time whether we know it or not.  All of our feelings good and bad are causing more of those same feelings and experiences to come to us.

When we have a horrible day, we focus on how horrible it is.  We passionately detest the type of day we are having yet that very emotion of disgust and hate is attracting more of those same negative experiences that we want to get rid of.

The only way to change what we are attracting is to change our focus.

Stop.  Just stop for a moment.

Take a deep breath and slowly let it out.

Get a grip on those feelings that are spiraling out of control.

Go to a peaceful spot—hide in a bathroom stall if that is what it takes—and calm down.

Change your focus and you will change your experience. Concentrate on one thing that makes you feel good. Grab that feeling and hold on to it like the lifeline it really is.

Keep your focus on the good.  Place blinders on your mental vision blocking out the bad things and remind yourself of how wonderful it is to experience whatever it is that makes you happy!

Stop looking at the negative in your life.  It won’t go away so long as you stay focused on it. Change your focus, and change your world.

What do you have to lose?