Every so often I encounter someone who shares with me their belief that they cannot be successful.
“I’d love to [insert dream here] but I can’t. My parents were abusive/poor/absent so I’ve got too much of a disadvantage.”
If it’s not some variation of that excuse, they claim that they got married or had kids too soon. Sometimes they’ve even spent time in jail or in mental health/rehab centers.
Many times they tell me that they’re too old to even try.
But you know what?
You can’t change your past but you can refuse to let it limit your future.
I was raised by alcoholics.
I helped my father in his bootlegging crimes.
I turned to alcohol after my father died and didn’t sober up until I discovered I was pregnant.
I had to carry two young children on a
I was committed by that same husband after I made an escape attempt. He told them (among other things) that I’d attempted to kill one of my kids. I was so depressed after that I tried to kill myself.
But you know what? That’s the past.
I can’t change it.
Instead, I placed it behind me the best that I could and moved forward.
I escaped my marriage.
I built my writing business.
I became a stay-at-home single mother in order to raise my youngest child.
I now work to help others learn how to help themselves as I focus on the next step of my journey towards self-improvement.
Excuses are Easy
It would have been easy to throw up my hands and say “I can’t.”
It would have been easy to give in, spread my legs, and find a “good man” to take care of me. Heaven knows that enough of them have knocked on my door and hit on me over the years to establish that.
I could have said that due to the way I was raised that I didn’t have a chance; that I wasn’t raised to amount to anything.
I could have said that I was too scarred from my marriage to even get a job.
I could have even said that I had my kids too soon and so all of my opportunities had passed.
Hell, I could say that I’m too old to go back to school now. I’m almost 50 so what’s the point?
Fighting is Hard
Every time you make a step forward, you win.
Every time you say “yes, this happened, but so what?” you win.
Every time you ignore the haters you win as well.
And every single time you prove the world wrong you really win.
Is it easy?
But winning is worth the effort.
What part of your past do you want to move beyond? Please share your stories in the comments below.